Reader, I Married Him: Author Spouses Tell All: Solace Ames & Dakota Cassidy

Valentine’s Day is our holiday, when everyone’s thinking fragrant bouquets, intimate dinners, sexytimes … you know, romance. Which got us to wondering, what’s it like to be married to a romance author? Is it all lingerie and drama? Or more … take out and Netflix marathons? This week we’ve been meeting some romance author spouses who are telling it like it is. Readers, get ready to swoon. 

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Today we have Solace Ames‘s husband, Michael, who is a bit of a music aficionado!

What’s the biggest misconception about having a romance author for a spouse?
[As I tell Solace,] I don’t know. I never talk to anyone about what you do, because you’re so private about it, and you tell me not to! So no one ever tells me anything.

What’s the biggest perk that comes from having a romance author for a spouse?
She works from home. Some of the funny insights into writing, like, um, the slash stuff she told me about. Is that legit?

Brag about your spouse, what are you most proud of them accomplishing in this difficult industry?
The fact that she taught herself how to write and has gotten books published by a major publisher.

The time she complained about only having one star next to her review in Publishers Weekly was pretty amazing. (Solace Ames aside: This is super embarrassing, but I’m leaving it in for the sake of honesty.) I really enjoyed that one. She had no idea how big it was to number one, have a review in Publishers Weekly, number two, have a star next to her name. People in the book business understand how big of a deal it is, and she didn’t! That’s my favorite story I tell people about her.

Does everyone in your life know what your spouse does for a living?
No! No one knows. (Solace Ames aside: This answer is a wild exaggeration :p)

If you ever had to write a book, what kind of book would it be?
The most boring book in the world! What kind of book would it be? Probably something about music: my musings about records everyone forgot about ten years ago, because they’ve all moved on to other stuff. Probably my love affair with music. But I’m not a writer. I never had any desire to write a book, ever.

What’s your coping mechanism when your spouse is on deadline?
Stay out of the room. Make sure she has plenty of tea. Keep the kids out of her hair. That’s the main one.

Anything you’d like to add?
I love my wife and she’s an amazing person.

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Here we’ve got Rob, the DH of the funny and prolific Dakota Cassidy.

Dakota Cassidy and RobWhat’s the biggest misconception about having a romance author for a spouse?
Don’t believe the Showtime series. To my knowledge, my wife doesn’t spend her afternoons by the pool, sipping champagne in lace nighties, reading letters of erotic escapades from her readers. There’s a lot of hard work going on instead.

What’s the silliest thing anyone’s ever said to you about having a romance author for a spouse? 
Well, when your romance author spouse is Dakota Cassidy, there’s far too much silly being said to pick just one thing.

What’s the biggest perk that comes from having a romance author for a spouse?
She can work anywhere there’s an internet connection (and a little peace and quiet). It makes planning vacations a little easier.

Has your spouse ever put you in a book?
That’s a good question. I’d like to think I permeate the way she writes the qualities of her heroes, or serve as inspiration for when she’s writing the smexy. But, honestly, I’m only certain that I’ve been mentioned in the dedications.

Does everyone in your life know what your spouse does for a living? 
Absolutely.

If you ever had to write a book, what kind of book would it be? 
I have no idea. I’m not a reader (shocker), so that’s tough to answer. I’m a bit of a smart-ass, so maybe a fake romance novel that mocks romance novels?

What’s your coping mechanism when your spouse is on deadline? 
Writing a book a month, my wife is always on self imposed deadlines, so it’s just a way of life at this point. I just make sure I drag her out for a date night, at least once a week, so we get out and have some fun together.

Brag about your spouse, what are you most proud of them accomplishing in this difficult industry?
A lot of people talk about working hard at their craft, but I would challenge anyone to prove they work harder than Dakota. She doesn’t write a little here and a little there. It’s 10, 12, 14-hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year. That kind of self-motivation and dedication is incredibly rare, and downright inspiring.

One constant in this business is that EVERYONE says they have a great story idea, or they’d like to write a book. But, everyone underestimates just how hard it is, and how much work goes into it. Any writer that is completing and publishing books, whether they’re good or bad, is a success in my book.

Sigh, right? We told you you’d swoon. Check back all week as we celebrate those bravest of souls — the romance author spouse. You can see all of our spousal interviews here. And for more love stories, be sure to visit our Everything Romance page!

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